'On the day I die I want to have had desert, so this informs how i live now. I have survived much loss as most of us have by our forties, my parents, dear friends, my pets. rubble is the ground on which our deepest friendships are built. If you haven't already you will loose someone you can't live without and your heart will be badly broken, and you never get over the loss of a deeply beloved person. But this is also good news. The person lives forever in your broken heart that doesn't seal back up. And you come through, and you learn to dance with the banged up heart. You dance to the absurdities of life; you dance to the minuet of old friendships'
Anne Lamott 'Plan B'